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You can have it all, Lord.

In the weeks and months prior to accepting the call to take a short term missions assignment to Kenya, I remember sitting in my living room and reading Matthew 19:29, 30 where Jesus told His disciples, “Everyone who has left houses or father or mother or brothers or sisters or children or farms for My name’s sake shall receive many times as much, and shall inherit eternal life.”  I memorized those verses because I wanted them to be burned on my heart so that if the time ever came for me to have to “give up” something for the Lord, I would have the grace and strength to do it.  I remember a particular day in the spring of 1984 when I felt prompted in my spirit to walk through the house and lay hands on my most precious antiques and family heirlooms and give them to the Lord. In that moment I felt courageous enough to whisper, “You can have this, Lord!…and this….and even this…”  It was quite a process for me to finally reach the point of relinquishing my worldly possessions to the Lord, and even more so, trusting Him with my children and family.  At last my heart was at peace and I could say with confidence, “You can have it all, Lord!” Little did I know that those words would set in motion a series of events that would eventually lead us to accepting a two-and-a-half year special missions assignment to Nairobi, Kenya. Miraculously, God provided everything so quickly, that we landed in Nairobi on January 1, 1985 and celebrated the New Year with our new missionary family.

Airport Dec 1985 1

Chicago Airport Departure Day for Kenya December 31, 1984 for a 2 1/2 year special assignment

 

At the conclusion of that assignment in June of 1987, we returned to the States at which time we felt the Lord calling us to commit to full time missionary work. We then began the year-long process of raising funds and making preparations to take a container back to the field with our household effects and supplies.  Back in the 80’s, many of the basic household items were either not available or were very expensive so it was customary for the missionaries to stock up on certain things and ship them in their containers.  In addition to furniture and appliances, these items would include pots and pans, dishes, bath towels, a four year’s supply of shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste, toilet paper, paper towels, and especially brown sugar, chocolate chips and of course, Heinz Catsup, etc. etc. etc.   We also spent the year stocking up on shoes and clothing that would last us and our two growing daughters for four years.  We also packed four years worth of Christmas and birthday presents, Easter baskets and special candy and decorations to make our holidays as much like American tradition as possible.

It was a hot sunny July day in South Bend, Indiana when we were scheduled to pack our container to return to Kenya. Mark and I had finished packing everything we “needed” to set up our new home in Nairobi.  Finally, the last item was checked off my list and the shipment was inventoried and ready to be loaded into the container. I was getting very excited knowing that soon we would be in Kenya enjoying our life on the mission field.  We discovered that packing a container was much like putting a jigsaw puzzle together and having no previous experience with this, we were definitely at a disadvantage.  Naively, we agreed to let other missionaries ship some of their items on our container because we thought an 8 X 8 X 20 foot container had plenty of room—no problem.  We would soon discover that was definitely not a wise decision on our part.

Leading up to the day we were scheduled to pack the container, we had put out a request to our church family for volunteers to help us pack the container and hoped we would have plenty of able-bodied men show up.  By the time the container arrived at our house, five men from the church showed up to help us. Unfortunately, they were all over 60 and half of them had some physical limitations.  Mark lovingly called them the over-the-hill gang.  The next thing we knew our front yard looked like a gigantic garage sale and boxes were flying and furniture was getting shoved in every direction.  It was utter chaos.  From time to time, I would catch a glimpse of two or three of the men standing around talking and drinking coffee.   To them, this was like a social day at the Hayburn house and they were having a great time.  After a few grueling hours, Clint and Ronda, a young couple who were good friends of ours came by to see how things were going.  When Clint saw the disaster unfolding, he immediately jumped in to help. All I can remember is seeing Clint and Mark sweating bullets with blood vessels popping out on their foreheads trying to get everything in the container.

When it was about to reach its capacity, they started asking for anything small to fill in the gaps.  Unfortunately, all my remaining items were too large and that’s when I started to panic.  All the other missionaries’ boxes seemed to be just the right size and when we got to the end, all their items were on board and I still had two living room chairs (seat cushions were already in the container), lamp table, two side tables and a half dozen large boxes of household effects sitting on the lawn.  Because we were paying the moving company by the hour, Mark and Clint began ripping open the boxes and throwing everything from drinking glasses, dishes, pots and pans, clothing, bedding, linens and even Christmas decorations into big black garbage bags and jamming them into the nooks and crannies remaining in the container.

That’s when I lost it. I don’t remember what I did but Mark told me it wasn’t pretty.  Suddenly Mark and Clint looked like two baboons throwing my carefully packed and inventoried treasures into the container like garbage collectors on trash day. Then suddenly God sent an angel to my rescue. Right when I started to launch into a major meltdown, Sharon, my senior pastor’s wife and best friend, pulled up in her little red car to see how things were progressing.  When she saw me, she immediately talked me into leaving with her and let the men finish the packing without my valuable assistance.

As we drove the short distance to her house, I was crying like a baby.  I remember the feelings of anger and fear spilling out from deep inside over the fiasco taking place with “my stuff”. It literally felt like everything that was precious to me was being wrenched from my fingers.  By the time we arrived at Sharon’s house, we sat down in her family room and she encouraged me to put my trust in God and then she prayed for me.  As I began to regain my composure, the Lord helped me put the whole situation in the proper perspective.

Then the Lord brought to my remembrance a story that a veteran missionary couple told me about how their first container had sunk to the bottom of the sea on route to the field.   I remember thinking how awful that must have been to lose everything and wondered how I would handle something like that happening to me.  I believe the Lord allowed this experience to test my heart and reveal to me how tightly I was holding on to the very things I had told Him He could have.  Then my mind went back to the day when I walked through my house laying hands on everything I loved and telling the Lord, “You can have it all.” I just didn’t realize how painful letting go would turn out to be.

Looking back over the past thirty-three years on the mission field, I think about all the subsequent moves Mark and I have made back and forth to Africa.  Today as we prepare to return to Kenya for a six month special assignment and then on to South Africa for another year, I constantly have to remind myself again and again that my most precious treasures are in heaven and that all of my earthly belongings will one day turn to dust.  I thank the Lord for His faithfulness and especially His patience with me down through the years. Now that we are in a retired-active status, we continue to look with eagerness to the future and to whatever God may call us to do. I know that I must remain utterly dependent upon Him for His grace and strength to face whatever comes my way.

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Happy 12th Birthday to our Granddaughter, Sydney!

Dear Sydney,

Sydney Newborn 2003

Sho Sho holding Sydney for the first time

Hooray!!! You are turning twelve today!  Oh my goodness.  Babu and I can’t believe you are almost a teenager.  As we look back over the years, we have so many precious memories of watching you grow up.  I remember getting the call from your mom letting us know you were going to arrive earlier than planned and even though I was still in Kenya at the time, the Lord answered my prayer and I was able to book a flight to the States that left the next day.  I arrived at the Seattle, Washington airport before noon and a friend of Mimi picked me up and drove me straight to the hospital.  I arrived about forty-five minutes after you were born at 1:34 in the afternoon on May 27, 2003 and saw you for the first time through the window of the nursery. Your daddy was so excited as he held you up so I could see you.  You were absolutely adorable.  In fact, I was able to see you even before your mom did.  Pretty amazing timing!! You weighed six pounds, fourteen ounces and were eighteen inches long and you also had such beautiful light brown hair. I was so excited because you were our first grandchild.  So special!! Babu was finally able to arrive on June 6th and I could tell he was overjoyed because he was smiling from ear to ear.

Bedtime fun with Mommy, Auntie Jen and Nan

Bedtime fun with Mommy, Auntie Jen and Nan

The next time we saw you was when you and your mom came to visit us at Nan and Baa’s house in Wellston, Ohio. At seven months of age, we couldn’t believe how chubby you had become in such a short time.  What’s amazing is how you could sit and watch an entire 45 minute Baby Einstein video without even blinking.  You would sit and stare as if you were scrutinizing every detail and would suddenly break into claps and smiles.

Sydney at the age of one, wore her tutu 24/7

Sydney at the age of one, wore her tutu 24/7

Sydney in costume at one of her recitals in 2013

Sydney in costume at one of her recitals in 2013

The other amazing thing was how limber you were.  You loved to lay on your back and clap your feet together and then spread your legs out so straight that it looked like you were doing a total split.  Little did we know you were practicing to become a ballerina some day.  Now you have excelled and in a few months you will be using pointe shoes.  We have been so blessed to even see you perform in some of your recitals. You are truly gifted.

Summer vacation 2004

Summer vacation 2004

Sydney, James and Megan with Great Grandpa Hubbard Summer of 2004

Sydney, James and Megan with Great Grandpa Hubbard Summer of 2004

Playing with Babu at the beach in 2004

Playing with Babu at the beach in 2004

You probably don’t remember the Hubbard/Long family reunion in Wilmington, North Carolina the summer of 2004.  You were only about 13 months old when you met your only cousins James and Megan for the first time.  Last summer in 2014, when we lined all the cousins up on the beach for a picture, there were eleven of you. However, there were seven other cousins missing from the picture.  Wow!  Just think, you are the oldest cousin of them all.

Gracie the stuffed doggie--It was love at first sight

Gracie the stuffed doggie–It was love at first sight

I remember when you and your mom visited Auntie Jen in Savannah, Georgia and met the lady named Lee Anne who gave you the stuffed doggie named Gracie.  Who would have ever dreamed how special that little stuffed animal would become.  I think you still take her everywhere you go and she sleeps with you every night.

One thing we noticed about you growing up was your compassion and tender heart for hurting people.  We remember when you started putting money aside for a mission’s project to buy a goat for a village in Ethiopia and even gave away a whole bag of crayons that I was able to give to two little boys here in South Africa.  I was also amazed to find out that you decided to cut your long beautiful hair so you could donate it to an organization that made wigs for children who lost their hair due to chemo therapy.

Honor Stars June 2014

Honor Stars June 2014

We were so proud of you when you completed all the requirements to be an Honor Star. Your love for Jesus and your passion for life tells us that God has a very special plan for your life.  When we look at the different women in the Bible, the one you remind us of is Esther.  God made her especially beautiful  and full of grace because He was planning to raise her up to be the Queen of Persia some day. She was a woman of beauty, integrity and virtue and because of her strong will, she was brave enough to risk her life for the sake of her people, the Israelites.  When we looked all the effort that went into preparing her for the day when she was presented to King, we thought of all your training—In school, in Missionettes, and even ballet, as your preparation for the future calling that God has ordained for you.  We believe God will use you in a powerful way as you continue to commit yourself to loving and serving Jesus all the days of your life.

Summer at the beach in Wilmington, NC with 11 cousins (7 missing)

Summer of 2014 at the beach in Wilmington, NC with 11 cousins (7 missing)

Christmas Tea Party 2010

Christmas Tea Party 2010

Sydney dressed up for her oral report and borrowed Sho Sho's blouse.

Sydney dressed up for her oral report and borrowed Sho Sho’s blouse.

Sydney B-day 2011

Sydney’s 11th birthday had a Horse Theme

Sydney and Daddy the night of their special Father Daughter Banquet

Sydney and Daddy the night of their special Father Daughter Banquet 2015

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Ask of me, and I will make the nations your heritage,   and the ends of the earth your possession. (Psalms 2:8 ESV)

Kevin Weir, faculty member at GST-WC and totally into motor cycling all over Africa.

Kevin Weir, faculty member at GST-WC and totally into motor cycling all over Africa.

I read one of Kevin’s blogs and thought it was so “right on” that I asked his permission to post it on my blog as an article written by him.  He said yes.  Kevin completed his BA degree through the Global University distance education programme and then his MA in Bible and Theology at the seminary and now teaches in the GST-WC BA programme.

To give a little background about Kevin, he was born in 1953 in Cape Town and was a civil engineer for eighteen years.  By this time he was married to Linda and had three children. He started out with a diploma in Christian Ministry in the area of health care and was trained as a community nurse.  He had over one thousand hours in clinics and hospitals and began working with people dying of AIDS.  He was also an avid mountain climber and was a part of a team whose job was to rescue people trapped, dying or dead on mountains.  He has quite an extraordinary story and in addition to his amazing feats of mountain climbing adventure, he loves to ride his motor cycle all over the country of South Africa and beyond.

In October 2011, Kevin lost his wife Linda, of thirty-three years, to cancer.  She was perfect one day, and the next thing they knew, there was a diagnosis of cancer which was followed by forty days of illness (miraculously without pain) and then she was gone.  Even though Kevin says he is still on the grieving journey, he has made up his mind to use his remaining days on this earth to spread the Gospel and be used by God to promote and teach about the coming Kingdom and salvation through no other name, but the name of Jesus.

The following post is an example of his zeal for missions and his burden to see the Church rise up and complete her mandate to reach the lost for Christ in these last days:

Brace yourself: Angry sermon coming up!!! by Kevin Weir

Ask of me, and I will make the nations your heritage,
and the ends of the earth your possession.  (Psalms 2:8 ESV)

What an amazing promise! What a huge promise!  But how many churches take it seriously? How many churches dare pray the prayer: “Lord, give  us the nations?” Unfortunately, there is more of an attitude of “Here am I, Lord, please send someone else.” Emil Brunner said:  “The Church exists by mission, as fire exists by burning.” It seems as if many churches don’t know much about fire!

Somehow, the Western church has slipped into a kind of country-club outlook on life. I know that there are some churches that are fervent about spreading the Gospel but, unfortunately many seem to have lost the plot and mainly preach “Oprah” sermons and don’t really reach the world.

This song, written by Frank Houghton for OMF (Overseas Missionary  Fellowship) is a challenge to all the “comfortable Christians” in the world. It is sung to the setting “Aurelia,” the same as “The Church’s One Foundation.”

1)  Facing a task unfinished,
That drives us to our knees,
A need that, undiminished,
Rebukes our slothful ease:
We, who rejoice to know Thee,
Renew before Thy throne
The solemn pledge we owe Thee
To go and make Thee known.

2)  Where other lords beside Thee
Hold their unhindered sway,
Where forces that defied Thee
Defy Thee still today;
With none to heed their crying
For life, and love, and light,
Unnumbered souls are dying,
And pass into the night.

3)  We bear the torch that flaming
Fell from the hands of those
Who gave their lives proclaiming
That Jesus died and rose.
Ours is the same commission,
The same glad message ours;
Fired by the same ambition,
To Thee we yield our powers.

4)  O Father who sustained them,
O Spirit who inspired,
Saviour, whose love constrained them
To toil with zeal untired,
From cowardice defend us,
From lethargy awake!
Forth on Thine errands send us
To labour for Thy sake.

A certain bishop once said that our liturgy and our praxis reveal our theology. This sounds reasonable. Surely a reasonable human being does things in accordance with what he or she holds to be true. What does the inactivity of the church reveal about our theology? Is the pressure of being politically correct enough to stifle the call of the Gospel?

Few churches sing songs that challenge us to get out into the mission field. The Christian music industry is just like any secular industry in this fallen world. Whereas people like Isaac Watts, John Wesley, Martin Luther, et al., wrote hymns to help teach people the Gospel, modern Gospel composers rely on “planned redundancy” to ensure a steady income. If last year’s  happy marshmallow praise song doesn’t fall into disuse this year, there is no need for a new one, and, thus, there is a concomitant drop in the artist’s income.

Why does a Gospel CD cost at least as much as a secular CD (sometimes more)? Why don’t modern composers write some songs that challenge us to get off our behinds and spread the Gospel? As church members/attendees, we are being cosseted  and guarded from the grim truth that, every minute, people all over the world are dying and going to a Christ-less eternity. No one reminds us of the duty we have to spread the Gospel. It’s too easy and comfortable to be a Western Christian.

H. Richard Niebuhr summed up Liberal Christianity as follows: “A God without wrath led men without sin into a kingdom without judgment through the ministrations of a Christ without a cross.” Thomas E. Trask, when he retired as head of the Assemblies of God in the USA, echoed this sentiment: “Many churches in America today [are] offering a … new religion that guarantees no hell, requires no holiness. It is a limp, spineless Christianity that does not confront sin for fear of being judgmental. It is an impotent gospel that tells people everything is okay.” The US church is not the only church with this problem.

The bad news is that everything is not okay, and the Church needs to have the courage to say so. The Good News is that in a world that is not okay, there is salvation through Jesus.

It seems significant that Chinese Christians do not pray for the oppression to stop. They only pray for strength to remain faithful through the oppression, because their reward lies beyond their present suffering. Maybe the Western church isn’t oppressed enough!

Vuka Bandla! (Zulu phrase meaning, Awake Church!) “Soldiers of Christ arise and put your armour on!”

End of angry sermon. Relax!

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He is my “Mark Angel”

DSC05977Recently, Mark and I spoke at a local church in downtown Cape Town on the topic of biblical marriage.  One of the points of our teaching was the biblical model of headship and submission described in the fifth chapter of Ephesians and how it was to be understood within the context of the key verse of the passage which is Ephesians 5:21. We are all familiar with the verses that tell wives to submit to their husbands (5:22 – 24) and which tell husbands that they are to love their wives (5:25 – 29).  However, if Ephesians 5:21 is the key verse that instructs all believers to “submit yourselves one to another in the fear of Christ”, then the instructions to husbands and wives that follow must somehow demonstrate this principle of reciprocal submission.  In other words, it is impossible for Christians to “obey” one another.  However, it absolutely possible for two people to “submit” to one another if that means to “bend in preference” to one another and “put the other person’s needs first” (see also Philippians 2:1 – 7).

At the end of our session, one of the husbands stood and asked both of us to give one practical example of how we “submitted” to each other in our daily lives.  The question made us stop and think because we had never really thought about how this was being played out on a daily basis. Since that time, I have been thinking more about this question and asking myself if Mark and I were actually doing what we were teaching others to do. And if so, what does “mutual submission” look like. Last week I went into the hospital for a hip replacement surgery which gave me an opportunity to see how this principle really was working out in our marriage.

It’s now been a week since my hip replacement surgery and I was shocked to discover how little I was able to do for myself. However, I am improving and getting stronger every day, thanks to an amazing husband who has dropped everything and literally made taking care of me his highest priority and has given his unselfish attention to my every need (which is just about EVERYTHING at the moment!).  It’s at times like these, when the veil of our fallen humanity lifts and the beauty of a biblical marriage comes into view.  Over the years (now in our 44th year), Mark and I have purposed to build our marriage on a foundation of “mutual submission” (Ephesians 5:21), which is really just another way of saying that we are striving to “agape love” one-another every day of our lives [agape: Greek for God’s kind of unconditional love; expressed through action and not based on feelings or emotions; always putting the other person first and doing what is in their best interest]. Paul makes an even stronger case for “mutual service” within the body of Christ in Galatians 5:13 where he instructs believers (including husbands and wives) that they are to “through love [agape] serve one another” [douleuō: Greek word translated “serve” actually means to be a “slave” to one another.]

In spite of our natural inclination to be very self-centered and our frequent failures to be consistently “other-oriented”, it was during this time of recuperation from surgery that I was able to see a little glimpse into how far we have come in our journey toward “becoming one” (5:31) and patterning our relationship after Christ and His Church (5:32).   I thank the Lord for a husband who takes his role as husband so seriously, that he is willing to die to himself on my behalf as Christ died for His Church, and do whatever it takes to put me first and serve me with a loving smile that tells me he is doing all this because he loves me.  The final verse of this passage (5:33) summarizes the entire passage in such a way that leaves no doubt as to how it was meant to be interpreted—“Nevertheless, let everyone of you [husbands] so love [agape] his wife as he loves himself—and the wife see that she reverence [or, respect: which is substituted for the word “submit”] her husband.”  The respect I have for Mark is not a result of being told I have to “obey” him, but because he has demonstrated a selfless love that makes him my “Mark Angel.”

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“It almost seemed like a scavenger hunt!”

The following is the amazing testimony of how God spoke to the team leaders from Operation Mobilization (OM) about the venue they were to use for the GO Challenge Conference 2015.

Here is the story as told by Chanri Odendaal to our students and faculty in chapel on February 4, 2015:

Chanri Odendaal speaking to the students at GST-WC on February 4.

Chanri Odendaal speaking to the students at GST-WC on February 4.

As we were busy working on the preparation for GO Challenge 2015, we prayed that God would show us the venue for the conference in June. We anticipate anywhere from 350 to 500 people to register for this training and so we started checking out different options around Cape Town for a venue that could accommodate such a large number of participants. As we kept praying over a period of time, God gave us some clues and guidelines. It almost seemed like a scavenger hunt.

The first thing we felt God saying was that we would experience God’s footsteps at the venue. He then gave us a verse from the Psalms: “He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters” Psalm 23:2. We felt that God was saying the venue would be spiritually quiet and prepared and not a spiritual battle field. When their training was completed, they would then be able to go into the battlefield spiritually prepared. We understood that God was telling us that the venue would have to be a quiet place.

Entrance to GST-WC campus

Entrance to GST-WC campus

One morning during our team devotions we prayed about the venue again and received another guideline from a passage in Acts: The apostles performed many signs and wonders among the people. And all the believers used to meet together in Solomon’s Colonnade” Acts 5:12. We immediately believed that this was another promise for the venue:

  • “The apostles performed many signs and wonders among the people” – This assured us that God would work in miraculous ways during conference.
  • “And all the believers used to meet together…” – All of the people assembling at the conference would be believers.
  • “…in Solomon’s Colonnade” – We were curious about what Solomon’s Colonnade looked like so we searched for pictures on the internet. So far, none of the venues we checked out had colonnades.
Beautiful colonnades line the campus and courtyards provide a quiet place for the students

Beautiful colonnades line the campus and courtyards with gardens provide a quiet place for the students

About two hours later one of our colleagues took us to see the Global School of Theology. We didn’t even have an appointment so we showed up unannounced. It just so happened that our colleague was familiar with the school as he had been invited to speak in chapel a while back and had only thought about this venue the evening before.

As we entered the school we were overwhelmed as we found all the different guidelines and clues God had given us. We immediately knew as we walked around the campus that it was spiritually prepared and was sacred ground – Psalm 23:2.

Administration Block

Administration Block

We discovered God’s footprints all over the venue as we walked through and saw all the Bible verses mounted everywhere on the walls. But most overwhelming was when we realized that the venue had many small colonnades attached to each other. – Acts 5:12. We had only read this verse two hours before we arrived at the campus.

There was a moment when our team just stood there amazed at how God had led us using such detailed guidelines to this particular venue. As we were discussing this, we happened to look up and saw a verse from Psalm 119 printed on the wall next to us. Just that morning during our team devotions a team member felt impressed to share that specific verse from Psalm 119 with us.

Rene Fortuin, GST-WC staff member with Chanri and the OM Team.

Rene Fortuin, GST-WC staff member with Chanri and the OM Team.

There were just too many coincidences with so much detail that we could not ignore the fact that God was at work answering our prayers. We believe God showed us the venue that He had in store for our conference.  ​

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The GO Challenge is an initiative of OM South Africa committed to mobilising churches and believers from all walks of life to go out and share the love of Christ. Through a four day conference, they aim to equip attendees with the right tools in order to reach out cross-culturally and in their own communities. The conference is followed by a seven day outreach in which they have a chance to test out these skills and experience what it’s really like to fulfil the great commission and to go and make disciples of all nations.For more information about this ministry, go to their website at:  http://www.omsouthafrica.org/go-challenge ​

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Happy 10th Birthday to our Granddaughter Brooklyn

Dear Brooklyn,

Sydney and Sho Sho holding Brooklyn.

Sydney and Sho Sho holding Brooklyn.

It’s hard to believe you are ten years old! We wish we could be with you to celebrate your birthday and give you a great big hug and kiss. So instead, Babu and I thought we would write a special story about some of our fond memories of you. I (Sho Sho) will never forget the day you were born. I was so happy I could be there to watch you come into the world with video camera in hand recording the momentous occasion. You were so beautiful and tiny and had a head full of beautiful brown hair. You weighed 7 pounds and 12 ounces and were 22 1/4 inches long. That’s when I knew you were going to be a tall young lady someday. You were the cuddliest baby I ever saw and I loved you from the very first moment I saw you. “Sweetness” is the word to describe you!

7 Brooklyn Kinder Grad 2011Even though we live in Africa, we have been so thankful for all the wonderful opportunities to visit you over the past ten years. We came once for Easter and had Christmas with you while you were still living in Hillsboro and even got to see your Kindergarten graduation. Babu was especially happy to go jogging with you and Sydney and Jackson in the summer of 2011 after he got a pacemaker to make his heart work better.10 Brooklyn July 2011

Brooklyn Summer 2014 1Over these last ten years, we have watched you grow into a beautiful young lady and it is exciting to see how well you are doing in school, especially your love of reading, which is quite a remarkable thing. We remember how hard you worked to learn how to read and now you are a reading machine. Babu especially wishes he could watch you play basketball because he loved playing when he was a kid. He is excited about the new basketball hoop they put in at the court next to the swimming pool and hopes you all can play together this summer.

10 Brooklyn Summer 2013I (Babu) remember how hesitant you were when you first started going to the ocean in North Carolina. Now, you are like a fish and are fearless tackling even the most humongous waves. I (Sho Sho) remember the big wave that nearly knocked us completely out. But that didn’t stop you from jumping back in after your head stopped spinning.

4 Brooklyn Dance 2010 1We have so many wonderful memories of you at dance recitals, having tea parties together, and movie night with popcorn. We love having the summers together at our new house in Wilmington and we are getting it all ready for you for this summer and can’t wait to see you.3 Brooklyn Easter 20103 Brooklyn Movie NIght 2010

Both Babu and I were thinking about which woman in the Bible we thought best describes your strengths and character and we both came up with a woman named Deborah. Her story is found in the book of Judges chapters 4 and 5. Deborah was the only one out of twelve judges, who was called by God to be a military leader over Israel, a civil leader over Israel, as well as a spiritual leader over Israel.

Deborah had strength, perseverance, and was a godly woman who obeyed the voice of God completely and was a strong leader. We see these qualities in you and believe God has a very special plan for your life.

Brooklyn Summer 2014 3These pictures are just a few of the wonderful times we have shared with you.

We love you so very much and pray for you every day.

Love,

Babu and Sho Sho

Brooklyn August 2014

Happy 10th Birthday, Brooklyn

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My New Perspective on the Proverbs 31 Woman

When I gave my life to Christ over forty-one years ago, I remember my first impression after reading about the excellent wife described in Proverbs 31.  The following paraphrase is my rendition of how that Scripture sounded to me:

images[4]An excellent wife, who can find?  She is worth her weight in gold and her husband adores her.  She prepares his favorite meals everyday and is warm and affectionate at all times.  She never has PMS and he can’t remember the last time she had a headache at bedtime.  She owns her own retail business buying fabrics and imported foods and in her spare time, she sells real-estate.  She is very creative and artistic in her home and makes everything by hand.  In addition, she has the reputation for being the best cook in the church.  She sets her alarm at 4:30 AM and makes her menus and grocery lists for the day.  In order to do all this she has to be in tip-top shape.  Therefore, she disciplines herself to do an hour of aerobics and jog two miles every day.  Most nights she lays awake thinking of new ways she can spend her free time and does most of her sewing after everyone else is in bed.  She has many ministries in the church which include the managing of a feeding program for the homeless and visits people in the hospitals and prisons images[5]regularly.  She makes all of her family’s clothing from the imported fabrics she purchases and they are the best dressed in the city.  As a graduate of seminary with a degree in Bible and Theology, she has incredible wisdom and insight, thus making her counseling ministry and adult Sunday school teaching ministry in the church very powerful.  She is loving and kind to all and patient and understanding when wronged or hurt.  She is never guilty of gossiping or losing her temper and when asked how she does all this, she says it must be due to her two hours of daily prayer and devotions.  She is constantly attending to her own family and refuses to put her children in day care.  As a result of her extraordinary devotion, her children and husband love her and revere her.  They praise her every day and show gratitude for everything she does for them.  They often surprise her with gifts and cards expressing their appreciation. Every year she wins the “Mother of the Year Award” and is in demand for magazine and television interviews nationwide.  When she walks down the street, everyone recognizes her and her fame has spread throughout the land.

Over forty years later I have a completely different perspective on what this passage means to me.  Rather than seeing this woman as an impossible model of what I am supposed to be and feeling totally inadequate and discouraged, I see it as a beautiful composite of the image of God in His creation of woman.  Genesis 1:26, 27 and 5:1 describe God’s creation of Man (mankind) as being comprised of both “male and female.”  In the same way that the Persons of the Godhead are different, the differences between men and women are to reflect the distinctions between the Persons of the Trinity.

imagesS80B2P0IGod had a specific purpose in mind when He designed the woman.  She was to be very different from the man, but essential to the total expression of God’s image in mankind. This beautiful proverb describes the incredibly multifaceted attributes of beauty, strength, courage, gentleness, compassion, wisdom, resourcefulness, ingenuity, creativity and virtue of the feminine characteristics of the image of God in its purest earthy expression. This Proverbs woman isn’t just a woman, she is woman.

Today when I read this proverb I am encouraged to continue pressing on by faith trusting God to fulfill His purpose in my life.  Paul said, “I press toward the mark for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 3:14). And even though my resume will never read like the woman in Proverbs 31, I firmly believe that since God is the One doing a good work in me, I will trust Him to bring it to completion. “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Jesus Christ” (Phil. 1:6 ). As I allow Him to do the shaping and molding, and at times even breaking, I am confident that He has a good plan that is ultimately going to make me into the woman He wants me to be.

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The Esther Principle: Using your Power of Influence for Good

Down through the years, I have heard many women from different African and Western cultures alike, share a similar problem in approaching their husbands about matters that are of great importance to them.  In frustration they lament that whenever they confront their husbands about issues, they either don’t listen to them or they react in a negative way.  The end result, they say, is always the same—the wife gets more frustrated and the husband either gets angry or zones out and nothing changes.  The Esther Principle is a method of approaching communication that has the power to help solve this problem.

First of all ladies, we need to realize that we often unknowingly contribute to the problem.  This is due in part to the lack of understanding of some of the key differences between men and women.  Understanding some of these differences can make a big difference in how we communicate with our husbands.

When God created Adam and Eve, He commanded both of them to “rule the earth and subdue  it” (Gen 1:28). Then He equipped them both with unique power to accomplish His mandate. When Adam was created, he was hardwired for leadership, which is where his power resides. When He formed Eve, God wove into her design the power of influence.  When a husband and wife each exercise their unique power in a loving and godly manner, communication happens and their marriage will be a testimonial of God’s work and presence.

The world today is trying to convince everyone that there is absolutely no difference between the genders.  However, science and biology disagree with that premise. In their book, His Brain, Her Brain, Dr. Walt and Barb Larimore wrote that science clearly shows that the male and female have two distinctly different brains:

  • One is built for plans and pacts—the other for nurturing and networking.
  • One emphasizes competition—the other compassion and caring.
  • One is spatially and results oriented—the other conversation and cooperation centered.
  • One gravitates toward projects—the other toward people.

Keeping these differences in mind, we generally observe that women excel in forming and nurturing relationships more so than men. The key to their effectiveness lies in the ability to use their power of influence in a godly way. What is influence? Influence is the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of others (Internet: Dictionary.com).

From Eve up until the present day, women have exercised their power of influence whether by intention or by default—whether for good or for ill—for the good of self or others. For example, Eve used her power of influence and look where we are today as a result (Gen. 3:6). Jezebel is another example of how a woman used her power to influence her husband to do evil things which ultimately destroyed Israel (1 Kings 21). Ruth, Deborah, and Sarah, are just a few of the positive examples of how women used their power of influence to change history for God’s divine purposes.

One shining example of a woman using her power of influence for good is Esther, when she used it to turn the tables on an evil plot against her people. According to the Scripture, Esther went from being a peasant Jewish girl who was sold into slavery in a pagan land to becoming the queen of Persia. Not only was she a beautiful woman in appearance, but her inner beauty undoubtedly made her stand out among all the other beautiful maidens competing for the title.

Even in a cultural setting where women were only considered slightly higher in rank than slaves and had no voice and no rights, Esther used her power of influence to turn a catastrophe into a miracle. When the king himself did not even have the power or authority to reverse his own edict, Esther used her power of influence to save the Jews from being slaughtered.

Timing Esther PrayingWhat was her secret? The first thing Esther did was approach God through prayer and fasting and ask Him for wisdom and direction as to what she should do. She humbled herself before God and then waited for His answer. God revealed a plan that involved three important principles—Timing, Manner, and Setting.

The Principle of Timing: Esther did not immediately confront her husband with her concerns or demands. Instead, she waited until the proper time to enter his chamber. Then she planned every step carefully and the entire process took several days to unfold. As a direct result of her timing, Haman was hung on his own gallows which he had prepared for her uncle Mordecai. If she had rushed to take care of the matter too quickly, she would have short-circuited what God was doing behind the scenes to turn the tables on Haman. Esther was patient and waited for God’s green light.

Manner Esther BowingThe Principle of Manner: Esther was reverent and respectful in approaching her husband. When she came before the king, she bowed in humility and followed the protocol for entering the king’s chamber. She was keenly aware that for any man or woman who comes to the king to the inner court who is not summoned, there was but one law, that he be put to death; unless the king held out to him the golden scepter so that he may live. Esther had not been summoned to come to the king for thirty days. However, she made the decision to follow through and willingly put her life at risk and said, “…if I perish, I perish” (Esther 4:16).

Setting Esther ServingThe Principle of Setting: Esther understood the importance of creating the right setting if she was going to be successful in exposing the evil plot of Haman. The Lord directed her to invite the king and Haman to a series of special meals while He was busy behind the scenes building a case against Haman. Esther ingeniously created a setting that opened the king’s heart to her so she could expose Haman’s evil intentions. Esther never resorted to manipulation, which is an evil use of this power of influence. As a result, God was able to rescue His people from total annihilation.

In conclusion I want to encourage women to think about how they use their power of influence on a daily basis and, especially when approaching their husbands on important matters. We should always pray first and ask God to teach us how to use our influence for His glory and for the good of others. By learning how to use Esther’s Principles of Timing, Manner and Setting, women regardless of their cultural setting can communicate with their husbands in a way that will encourage a more positive response from them. God gave women this powerful gift of influence for a good purpose and He will honor any woman who uses it for His glory.

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Mark’s Firsthand Account of the Ethiopia Miracle

Before I (Mark) tell the story about this incredible miracle, first I need to set the stage by describing what had been taking place in Ethiopia prior to 1991.  The following information was taken from the Wikipedia article, Derg, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Derg and the book, The Emperor: Downfall of an Autocrat, by Rwszard Kapuscinski:

Haile Selassie

Haile Selassie

In September of 1974, Ethiopian Emperor, Haile Selassie, was removed from office in a Coup d’etat. The monarchy was formally abolished in May 1975 and Marxism-Leninism was proclaimed the ideology of the state. Emperor Haile Selassie died on August 22, 1975 and it is commonly believed that Mengistu Haile Mariam, the leader in the Derg, killed him, either ordering it done or by his own hand.

Mengistu Haile Mariam

Mengistu Haile Mariam

At the time of the Coup, the Coordinating Committee of the Armed Forces, Police, and Territorial Army began to rule Ethiopia from 1974 to 1987. The term Derg was given to this committee. It took power following the ousting of Emperor Haile Selassie I. Soon after it was established, the committee was formally renamed the Provisional Military Administrative Council, but continued to be known popularly as “the Derg”. In 1975, it embraced communism as an ideology; it remained in power until 1987. Between 1975 and 1987, the Derg executed and imprisoned tens of thousands of its opponents without trial.

In 1987 Mengistu Haile Mariam abolished the Derg; however, he established the People’s Democratic Republic of Ethiopia. After years of warfare by a coalition of ethnic-based resistance, Mengistu was overthrown in 1991.

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In December 1991, East Africa Area Director Mike McClaflin invited me to join him on a fact-finding trip to Ethiopia. I had just taken over as the principal of EAST, our Bible school there in Nairobi, and Mike wanted us to check out the possibility of assisting the evangelical churches in establishing a Bible school in Addis Ababa.  Ten leaders from the evangelical churches of the country requested the Assemblies of God mission to come and help them and we were not sure what we would find.

During the seventeen year Derg rule, the evangelical churches were forced from their places of worship and forbidden to meet together. The believers had no other recourse but to take the Church underground. Anyone caught witnessing for Christ was arrested immediately and imprisoned. Believers would meet secretly in homes under the cloak of night. Those seventeen years were a time of severe persecution and oppression for the Church, especially for the Pentecostal believers who were called, Penties for shortIn fact, they are still called Penties today.  There were many questions to be asked and answered but the primary one was: What happened to the Church during this time period?

When we arrived in Addis Abba, we met with the leaders of the Evangelical Union. These men represented the evangelical churches of Ethiopia consisting of Baptists, Mennonites, Full Gospel, Lutheran, Finnish, Swedish, and Pentecostals, etc. My initial thought was: What am I doing here? What can I do to assist them? I felt like a young Timothy in the presence of a group of modern day Pauls. Each of these men had been imprisoned for their faith. Some had been imprisoned and tortured more than once. They told about believers who had been put to death because they would not renounce their faith in Jesus.  As I sat there and listened to their stories I was overwhelmed. During this time of horrific persecution, the Church had grown exponentially. Literally hundreds of thousands had become followers of Christ. This was all done through secret house churches, one-on-one witnessing and what could best be described as prison evangelism.

It was hard to take it all in, but two things really stood out to me. The first was listening to how the communist government aggressively attempted to eradicate the Church but how God turned it around and used their evil plots to spread the Gospel. One of their insidious practices was every time they arrested someone, he or she would be placed in a prison located far from their homes. The reason for this was that prisoners were to be fed by their families, but if they were too far away from home, they would eventually starve to death. At least that was their evil plot.

However, the Lord intervened and this wicked plan backfired. Whenever new prisoners arrived at the prison, the Christians in that area would go to the prison and provide food for the ones who did not have family living close enough to feed them.  The believers fed anyone in need whether they were a Christian or not. If the new prisoners happened to be believers, they would encourage them not to give up hope. The new prisoner would become an evangelist at the prison and witness to his fellow prisoners resulting in many coming to faith in Christ.

This happened on a continuous basis throughout the seventeen years. The communist government, which had desperately tried to suppress and oppress the Church, had in reality promoted the spread of the Gospel through the underground Church. Instead of breaking the will of the people, they actually ignited a fire of revival throughout the country.

The second amazing thing was a supernatural move of God that took place all across the country. The various evangelical leaders began to share testimonies of how small groups meeting together during their worship suddenly experienced a supernatural outpouring of the Holy Spirit as on the Day of Pentecost recorded in Acts 2:1-4. One of the leaders from the group made the statement that they were still officially Baptists, Lutherans and Episcopalians, etc., but they were Pentecostal in practice.

There had been no one coaching them, no one telling them what they should or should not do; there were no missionaries, no teachers, no Bible schools—just a sovereign, supernatural move of God that took place across the country. The believers witnessed miracles of healing and deliverance from demons and addictions and the empowerment of the Spirit of God to continue to share the Gospel in house churches, prisons, one-on-one in the streets—taking no thought for their lives, but proclaiming Christ as Lord. It was the Book of Acts being lived out through the Ethiopian believers.

On Sunday we were invited to worship with one of the Ethiopian congregations. With the overthrow of the communist regime, the church properties that had been confiscated during the Derg were returned to their rightful owners. This particular congregation met in a small stone church which seated approximately two hundred people. The military rulers had used the church for an ammunitions depot. When we arrived, we saw firsthand the result of those seventeen years of oppression on just one of the congregations. There were approximately 1500 people there to worship and we had to hold the service outside because the building couldn’t contain all the believers. As you can only imagine, there was incredible joy and outpouring of praise and thankfulness for what God had done. This was an experience I will never forget.

Mark with Endale, the ABC principal and Steve Pennington, Ethiopia Field Moderator while on six month assignment to the Bible school in 2002.

Mark with Endale, the ABC principal and Steve Pennington, Ethiopia Field Moderator while on six month assignment to the Bible school in 2002-3.

We did eventually start Addis Abba Bible College (ABC) where young men and women study theology to serve the Church as pastors, evangelists, missionaries and teachers. The scripture that comes to my mind when I think of that time is found in Matthew chapter 16 when Jesus said: “…I will build my church and the gates of hell will not overcome it.”

We all know that ultimately, the enemy of the Church is Satan himself and since the day of the Church’s inception, he has used ungodly people and governments to try and wipe out every semblance of Christianity.  He attempted to use the communist regime in Ethiopia to destroy the Church, but God’s plan and purpose would not be thwarted and never will. History proves that persecution actually empowers the Church and spreads the Gospel further and faster than times of peace and prosperity. The Ethiopia miracle is a powerful testimony of how believers “… overcame him [the great dragon—the serpent of old who is called the Devil and Satan] because of the word of their testimony, and they did not love their life even to death” (Revelation 12:9,11).

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Happy 8th Birthday to my Grandson, Jackson

Dear Jackson,
Happy birthday to you!  I wish Babu and I could be there to celebrate your very special 8th birthday with you.  I know you have to be so excited and looking forward to the birthday party your family is going to have.
Looking back I remember how excited I was to be home from Africa when you were born.  I actually got to see you the minute you popped into the world and even took pictures of that incredible moment.  That was the best day!!! You were quite a big boy even then.
???????????????????????????????The next time I saw you was when you were six months old when you and your mommy and sisters came to Ohio to visit us at Nan and Baa’s house. All I can remember is how squishy and cuddly you were.  I loved to just sit and hold you. You were such a happy baby and you sure kept your mom and dad on their toes. How special that they named you Jackson “Hayburn” Slater! Baa and Babu are so proud of that.  I couldn’t believe how much you had grown in such a short amount of time.  I knew from that moment you would be a very tall man some day–maybe even taller than your daddy.
???????????????????????????????I have so many wonderful memories of our visits with you in Portland at your house in Hillsboro.  Remember your 4th birthday?  You were really into Toy Story and must have watched the DVD at least a hundred times.  I think I have it memorized after watching it with you so many times.
???????????????????????????????I can’t even remember all their names but I can still picture all the characters lined up on your bed.  What amazed me was how organized you were with all your stuffed animals and characters.  I wonder what plans God has for you with all your organizational skills.
???????????????????????????????I also remember how much you loved to go to Starbucks for hot chocolate with Babu. I don’t know who enjoyed it more–you or Babu.  He told me that he asked you what you wanted to eat and you told him you didn’t want anything.  He bought himself a pastry and offered you a bite.  He said you ate the whole thing.  From that day forward, you always ordered your own.  Going to a coffee shop is Babu’s favorite thing to do and it became a tradition with your mom and Auntie Jen all through their growing up years.  We called it “Cwoffee Twok” (I don’t know how in the world you spell it).  I guess you and Babu are going to carry on with the tradition.
???????????????????????????????It was such a blessing when we were able to visit you the year you turned five. You were growing up so fast I couldn’t believe it. This was when you all moved into your new house.  I remember how difficult it was for you to be the little brother with two older sisters.  That was probably very frustrating for you at times.  What a blessing to finally have your own room.  That was the year I started noticing you working very hard on having self-control.  I was very impressed and knew you would grow up to be a kind and thoughtful young man.
Cousins Beach2013The first time you all came to visit us in our new home  in North Carolina was when you were six.  We had so much fun. You and your cousins really got to know each other that summer. You were just starting to get into swimming in the ocean and before I knew it, you were swimming like a fish.  Playing in the sand making sand castles and on the days we went to our swimming pool, you were getting braver and braver by the day.
???????????????????????????????Last summer we had even more fun than the one before.  That first day you arrived, we went for Khol’s ice cream, which I think is also becoming a tradition. Just looking at these pictures gets me so excited about this summer when you come back to the beach for vacation. We are busy getting the house all ready for you and we are excited for summer to get here.  Only 6 more months!!! We are going to have soooooooo much fun!!!
Before you know it, you will be all grown up and I believe God has a very special purpose for your life.  You are not only growing physically into a handsome young man, but I see you becoming a man after God’s own heart.  I know that Jesus is also very proud of you because Babu and I are very proud of you.
I am counting the days until you come to North Carolina for vacation.
Babu and I love you and are praying for you.  Have a wonderful day today.
Love,
Shosho